How To Feel Proud of Yourself

Most of us shy away from being overly confident or proud of ourselves. We are very quick to bash ourselves, and most find it difficult to even express that they've done a good job. There's a few simple steps you can take to start feeling prouder of yourself, giving you good self worth and making your mind a little kinder (we can all do with being a little kinder). So here are my steps, on how to feel proud of yourself...

This can be any little or big thing that's been achieved for the day. Whether it's sending an email you've been putting off, calling to book an appointment somewhere (one of the worst parts of being an adult), or something as big as getting a promotion. Write it down and celebrate you. 

A good place to keep these accomplishments is your diary, this way if you're having a bad week, you can look over the past 7 days and see what you've achieved.

Did somebody speak to you wrong and you dealt with it great? Or maybe you tripped up and brushed it off. Overcoming little things is part of life, and the more you do this and celebrate your success the more you can feel proud of your journey. Soon the smaller things won't bother you so much, and you can start celebrating the bigger stuff. 

Don't ever forget about the little stuff though, that's what got you to where you are.

Stop overthinking what will go wrong, and start thinking about whether this is a task you're actually able to overcome. If you are, then start putting steps in place to get through the struggle and actually overcome it. If it isn't something you are possibly able to overcome or help, then accept that and move on. 

Don't dwell on something you can't change.

When your best friend is having a tough time, what do you do? Well, I'll tell you what you don't do - you sure as hell don't tell them all the bad things about them, or tell them that how their feelings are irrelevant. No, no you don't do you? You tell them all the good things about them, and why you love them. Do this to yourself! Stop beating yourself up and celebrate yourself. 

Don't kick somebody when they are down - including yourself.

Stay positive,

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What's The Nicest Thing Somebody Has Ever Said To You?

With the fascination and constant updating of Social Media, we're never too far away from a share of a questionable post, Facebook's top bragger or someone with one of those hard to look away posts. Social Media has allowed us to see everyones highs and not so many lows. Everyone gets to paint a perfect picture, which means that when we're actually faced with a low - we feel very alone. 

With all of this in mind, the daily struggles each of us face personally and the fact that it is estimated that one in four people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year, while one in six experience a neurotic disorder such as anxiety or depression - it's inevitable that the problem is only going to get bigger. Life is more stressful than ever before, and the internet has given some of the causes a silver platter. 

With the recent articles that have hit the media about the lies behind being "Instagram Famous" I think it's time to spread as much positivity, whenever and wherever we can. It would be nice for our generation to be remembered for embracing peoples flaws and differences instead of bashing and shaming them for it. I do believe that we're getting there - slowly.  

Every now and then I come across a Facebook page, a Tumblr blog, a Twitter feed or an Instagram account that is uplifting in a world where most things are falsified and down right saddening. The key thing that these pages have in common is that it shows real life, real problems, real people - or something I can have a little giggle at! I keep these as my little treasures and when I'm feeling like Sadness from Inside Out, I take my iPhone and just scroll. I find it therapeutic to read some really meaningful shit. Shit that I read and smile with my eyes. Some make me cry, some make me smile. I gain perspective, and all in all, I know I feel a little calmer afterwards.

So let's be human.

Whats the nicest thing somebody has ever said to you?

For me, it was when I was having a bad time with my anxiety. I was sat crying in the car with my friend and she started telling me all these positive things about me. Me? No, that doesn't sound like me. I'm not that person you're describing. Why are we so harsh on ourselves? Why are we always the first to put ourselves down? Someone once told me, "you know it is okay to be your top supporter". But so many of us chose to immediately bash ourselves, and then wonder why our self-esteem is so low. 

She turned to me and said that what she loved most about me was how other people behaved when they were around me. That their demeanor seemed to change and I shed some sort of "light" on others. This honestly touched me like nothing else. For me, this was such a thoughtful, non-throw away comment. When I'm having any of my lows, I try to think of these little positives that others have passed my way. Our minds are our worst enemies at times, so this helps me get out of my funk (along with hot coco and my Winnie The Pooh hot water bottle).

Having been in a very negative relationship previously, I find it hard to forget the things that were said. We're very quick to believe the nasty things people say about us, but too many times has someone said something nice and instead of making me smile it gives me heaps of anxiety and tension. "Why are they saying that? They don't really mean it. They're just filling the silence. Do they actually mean the opposite?" - We need to learn to accept compliments!

I still remember this comment vividly, and I don't think she will ever understand just quite how much it touched me.

Lets share the kind words people have said to you and lets spread some positivity

Here are some of my favourite places to visit when I need to dwell, uplift, or just need to get a bit lost in some scrolling;

Instagram;
@PositiveVibesQuotes
@ThinkGrowProsper
@BuddhaDoodles

@BuddhaDoodles

Tumblr; 

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idisagreewithmymind

onlinecounsellingcollege

inkskinned
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Twitter;
@MurrayNewlands
@SincerelyTumblr
@Pretty52

Facebook;
BuzzFeed Life 
HuffPost Good News
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One of my all time favourites was an Instagram account: @drunk_on_positivitea. Sadly, the girl behind the name has stopped posting due to being too busy with life. Here's hoping she'll find the time to come back and spread the love. 

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